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Marriage Tip of the Day--It's Friday Night! Here's what you do to end the busy work week! 08/26/2011

So it's Friday evening and everyone has probably had a very busy work week. Marriage tip of the day is simple and requires again, "thinking outside of the box". Remember, thinking inside of the box leads to a divorce rate of over 50%. Friday night, when everyone is probably more tired than any other day of the week, try something that shows each other you want to be with each other. Head to the kitchen and start cooking dinner together! In our household, we have converted to a gluten-free lifestyle due to one of us having Celiac Disease. So just heading to Subway or McDonalds when you haven't taken out something to thaw out isn't something we can do anymore. We could go to the grocery store and get some fresh meat and veggies to cook but who wants to do that, come home and still have cooking to do after working all day long? So we brainstormed for 23 seconds and decided to make a quiche. We had enough eggs, bacon, cheese, and onions--quiche it is! My wife mixed up the eggs and cheeses while I cut up some frozen bacon and chopped an onion. I sautéed the bacon and onion and soon we mixed it all together, turned the oven on 350, and in just a bit we will have a nice dinner....and we did it all together.

This marriage tip goes beyond the traditional stereotype. After my last post you probably are getting the feeling we don't have a traditional marriage....and you'd be right! My wife has been the primary bread winner in our family. As a school teacher, we do alright, but we certainly hope to do even better down the road. I do my fair share of the laundry, cleaning and other household chores. I do a lot of the cooking for us. But one thing that really keeps good relationships going strong is spending time together in the kitchen. This means (guys I am really talking to you) you have to spend it together AND cook together, clean together--and what eventually happens (and if you haven't tried it...it is kinda like a magic trick..but it works) is you laugh together! And who doesn't need a good laugh after a long hard day at work. You certainly are less likely to find it at your favorite restaurant.

Marriage Tip of the Day--Men!! Thank More Like A Woman and Act More Like A Man!! 08/26/2011

What exactly do I mean "think like a woman"? Last night, my wife and I were sitting in the living room winding down the day. Well, we both were on the couch with the television on. My wife was getting her seating charts for this school year together (26 different classes this year!!) and working hard at that! I was working on preparing different entries for today's blog features. My wife commented about her yearly physical doctor appointment today. She is seeing a new doctor who took over for her former doctor. Last years physical and other concerns have surfaced since she has seen this new doctor and she wanted to get a list together of everything that was diagnosed, prescribed, supplements taken etc. since last year. When she mentioned this a little lightbulb went off in my head! I like to think it is the "female" lightbulb because MEN just don't think like this. I am not too proud to admit our marriage has been so successful because I don't just think about things from the male perspective. I was fortunate to have lived in a childhood home full of females--a mother and three sisters and later a niece joined our clan. So I'm well rounded in the female ways. As my wife continued on with her seating charts, I stopped what I was doing and opened up my Microsoft Word and started typing up her vital information she can take to the doctor today. I printed it up and gave it to her. I chuckled and she said, "What's so funny?" I responded, "How many men know their wife's health details from the past year?" Men don't know their OWN health status let alone their wife's! THIS was the female (and YES men we all have that female chromosome in our DNA) trait coming out in me--the nurturing and caring side. Guys--this goes a LONG way to building a wonderful relationship with the one you love. It demonstrates caring and putting someone else ahead of your needs. If all men started thinking the way a female thinks we'd have fewer divorces and separations. This is just common sense.
Imagine this guys--you are at a bar after going to a movie with your wife on a Friday night. Some guy comes up and starts talking crap to your wife and she begins to feel very uncomfortable. Are you going to sit there and just let him do that or are you going to intervene and help her out. When we are talking about the health of our loved ones, illness or disease is no different than some creep threatening our wives. We'd step in and take over! When people in our families get sick and the illness is the threatening creep, too often we rely on our wives to be the protector and nurturer. That to me says WEAK! It's weak of us to just let them take on all the nurturing of our children when they are sick--step in, be more like a woman and help out! When you do so you are being more of a man, acting more like a caring, decent, loving man, than any guy who punches the creepy guy in the nose at a bar. Start THINKING a little bit more like a woman and ACT more like a man! You'll keep winning her heart and deepening the love you committed to when you said, "I Do!" This just is common sense to me.

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